My greatest fear is that I am not good enough and that I will be sitting here in July without having achieved anything. It’s not rational, I know.
Why July? Well in July various things happen:
- I get married
- I go travelling for 3 months
- It will have been 6 months since I lost a paying job
When I began this journey into seeing if I could be the master of my own destiny, to design my life the way I wanted, I had in mind a 6 months time frame due to the reasons listed above. As July draws closer, my confidence is dwindling more and more. I feel more lost than when I started as I feel the pressure of the situation has clouded everything.
I took some time out this weekend with my sister and did my best to switch off from my biggest obstacle – my emotions. I’m still unsure of how to move forward, but the fog is starting to clear as I emerge from the deception of my anxious mind.
I hope you all had a good weekend and that this week starts off well for you.
Dani xx
The Unmarked Road 
You get married and then you travel for 3 months. That sounds exciting and is making me think back to my favorite modern author, Bill Bryson, who has published more of his travel narratives than he has anything else. That would probably be a nice thing to read from you, Dani. I hope you are and continue to be well. xx
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Ah yes love Bill Bryson! Than you for the well wishes 🙂 Hope you are well too. xx
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You are very good enough so don’t worry everything will work out. Worrying never helps anything. I am sure you will do fine. I believe in you.
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Thank you, that’s a lovely thing to say 🙂 x
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How do yo measure achievement? I think that is the important question. Your blog has had a great impact on a lot of people, so that’s a great achievement right from the start. If you limit achievement to only how much you have earned or how many people (in numbers) are reading your blog, you are minimising your own base of abilities. You lost your job 6 months before you are getting married which gave you time to start the blog, start writing your book and preparing for the wedding. After THE day, you are going on honeymoon and then you will travel to see whether your idea of emigrating is as good as you hope it will be. You have only taken the first step of your journey and you are panicking already? Don’t! You don’t know how long your unmarked road is, so keep on walking because I can tell you from my own life experience: it will take you to places you never thought of, you will meet people you could never have imagined, and you will experience things that will leave you amazed and show you the world in a different way. 🙂 Don’t be despondent. Look forward to your adventure!
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Love everything about this comment. Thank you 🙂 xx
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I think there’s some strength in recognizing fears, both rational and irrational. Sometimes stepping away helps so it’s good you took some time out this weekend. I’ve definitely struggled with the fear that I will never find my path in my life even though I know everything will work out, as it will for you 🙂
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Thank you for you words of comfort Daisy 🙂 It’s one of the things I struggle with most! I so envy those who know their path xx
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You’re welcome. I struggle with the same thing I feel so adrift in my life right now I’m envious of those who seem to have their life figured out but I’m also learning to appreciate the uncertainty in my life in the sense that I’m truly free to pursue a new path.
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Yes absolutely! I actually feel very lucky when you put it like that 🙂 xx
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Dani, I find great relief in noticing and not following any and all “me” thoughts 🙂
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Hehe great advice! Thank you 🙂
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Dani, see this post. http://wp.me/p218l8-l0 – it’s about this “me” thing I speak of.
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This! – “The peace that we longed for is not going to be delivered via a situation” – I know this but haven’t found a way of finding that peace. This weekend has certainly helped get some perspective and am feeling much better already. Thank you for this. Truly xx
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Sometimes things shift into place when you stop expecting them.. Not so sure if that’s just my problem or not.
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You’re absolutely right. We confuse ourselves through the ocd of our anxious thoughts. When we are able to be still and peaceful, the answers come on their own. But I still get anxious that they won’t! And so the cycle goes 🙂 Taking some time out has helped, but thank you for your comment 🙂 xx
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Time out does wonders. I hope you’re feeling better now. 🙂
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I’m getting there, thank you 🙂 xx
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